How would I live life differently if I thought I knew it were easy—if I were willing to let it be easy?
Alan Cohen, A Deep Breath of Life
Our ability to inhale and receive breath relates to how fully we exhale and let go. This metaphor of creating a vacuum from emptying the space so that we can draw more to us relates to both business and life.
The art of creating life and a business can be as easy as breathing—if we allow it, rather than force it.
When you plant a seed, you don’t come over to it the next day to see how much it has bloomed. You don’t fertilize the egg and expect the baby to come out ready to go the next day. The cycle of life requires patience, and the creation debuts at the perfect time.
So often, though, we miss the joy of the process. In my own life, I have figured out what I desire, only to suffocate the dream with my impatience and doubt. I forget that my dreams are my own seeds, and I must nurture them with equal parts love and patience. I must weed the doubt and protect against the naysayer insects. I can visit the dream garden daily with my vision of the end result. But I must also give it the oxygen of time.
Impatience, fueled by doubt, can suffocate a dream. It is the clinging to the end result, rather than the unfolding of the process, that makes it bitter.
I am the first to agree with how difficult patience can be. A few years ago, while undergoing a significant transition that felt anything but graceful, I would occasionally awaken in a panic or funk. Rather than enjoying the process of what was unfolding, my thoughts would churn about where I wasn’t, why I wasn’t, and who I wasn’t. Even when we know we need to be positive and we have the mental wits to choose differently, impatience and doubt can be a bully.
Even this period that felt dark created an opportunity to learn the power of choice. We always have the power of choice over our thoughts, and life teaches us just how powerful that is because we have to make an effort to shift out of the negative spiral. Just as a bird does not cling rigidly to a wire (it would fall off), but instead moves with the wire, we must learn to move with the course of events.
This is the time to give oxygen to your dreams. Do not let them suffocate in doubt.
You planted those dream seeds.
Breathe out, pause, and let the breath in be the one that inspires your next thought and next step, in the direction of nurturing your garden of dreams.